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Connecting the dots…to connecting with people

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” - Dale Carnegie

Hello fellow followers! Connecting with people can sometimes be more challenging and uncomfortable than we think.

Take a look at the following tips on how to connect with people by Scott Dinsmore.  Scott Dinsmore is the founder of Live Your Legend, a coaching and digital product company helping people build a career around work they love.

 

  • Be genuine. The only connections that work will be the ones that you truly care about; the world will see through anything short of that.
  • Pay attention. It’s nearly impossible to genuinely offer help if you don’t pay attention — I mean real attention, not just to what sports and foods they like! Learn about their backgrounds and passions. Invest genuine time in learning what really matters to them and how you can help.
  • Make real friends. Think about how you’ve made the friends you have. That’s all this is. You only make friends with people you genuinely want in your life. Don’t over-think it. Be human, be helpful and most humans will happily be human in return, regardless of who they are.
  • Provide help. Even the biggest and most powerful people in the world have something they’d like help with. Too many people never reach out to those above them due to the fear that they wouldn’t be able to offer anything in return. But you have more to offer than you realize: write an article or blog post about them, share their project with your community, and offer to spread their message through a video interview with them. Give real thought to whom you could connect them with to benefit their goals.

Turn that frown upside down!

Hello fellow followers! We have all dealt with negative emotions in our professional and personal lives, but did you know smiling has many benefits?

Check out the below cool facts about smiling from the pickthebrain.com

  • Forcing yourself to smile can boost your mood: Psychologists have found that even if you’re in bad mood, you can instantly lift your spirits by forcing yourself to smile.
  • It boosts your immune system: Smiling really can improve your physical health, too. Your body is more relaxed when you smile, which contributes to good health and a stronger immune system.
  •   Smiles are contagious: It’s not just a saying: smiling really is contagious, scientists say. In a study conducted in Sweden, people had difficulty frowning when they looked at other subjects who were smiling, and their muscles twitched into smiles all on their own.
  •  Smiles Relieve Stress: Your body immediately releases endorphins when you smile, even when you force it. This sudden change in mood will help you feel better and release stress.
  • It’s easier to smile than to frown: Scientists have discovered that your body has to work harder and use more muscles to frown than it does to smile.
  •   It’s a universal sign of happiness: While hand shakes, hugs, and bows all have varying meanings across cultures, smiling is known around the world and in all cultures as a sign of happiness and acceptance.
  •   Smiling helps you get promoted: Smiles make a person seem more attractive, sociable and confident, and people who smile more are more likely to get a promotion.
  •   Smiles are more attractive than makeup: A research study conducted by Orbit Complete discovered that 69% of people find women more attractive when they smile than when they are wearing makeup.
  •  Smiles use from 5 to 53 facial muscles: Just smiling can require your body to use up to 53 muscles, but some smiles only use 5 muscle movements.

 

 

Know thyself…

Hello fellow followers!

Many people live in peaceful ignorance of themselves and their needs, others not wanting to know for fear of what they would have to address. After reading an article by Emotional Health Expert Elaine Sihera, I thought we’d all find value in understanding ourselves. Below you’ll find her POV on why knowing yourself is so important for the following three reasons:

First, you have to live with yourself 24/7

No one in your life will be with you as much as you are with yourself. Would you live with a stranger for so long without knowing anything about them? Really, it is about self-awareness. Who you are, what you like and want, where you are going, what makes you happy and what makes you irritated. Those are very vital things to know if you are to improve the quality of your life and benefit from the things which make you happiest.

Second, self-awareness builds confidence

The more you know about you, the greater you will feel emotionally and the more adept you will become at dealing with situations. You then become more intuitive about what works for you and what doesn’t. Self-awareness is a powerful tool for improving competence because you will be pushed along directions which make you feel good rather than living in a vague way from day to day, not knowing how you feel or what you should do.

Finally, self-awareness boosts identity

If you don’t know much about your background, history, culture, gender and what you value, how will you get on with others in mutual respect? They cannot respect what they don’t understand. People who lack self-awareness tend to be ambiguous and make others feel uncomfortable because they are never sure what to do. So ignorance about the self is not a good thing

What is the first step of getting to know me?

The first step to getting to know you would be-asks questions. Just as you would with anything topic or person that you’d like to know a little better, do the same for yourself. Here are a few starter questions that you can begin to ask that will provoke so thought.

  • When do I have the most energy? Day or Night.
  • What makes me happy?
  • What makes me unhappy?
  • Do I like to work with people?
  • Am I energetic?
  • What do I do really well?
  • What do I like about myself?
  • Am I pessimistic or optimistic?
  • What’s my best quality?
  • What’s my worst quality?
  • What do I not like about myself?
  • What is my motto?
  • What’s my biggest worry?

 

“He who knows others is wise; he who knows himself is enlightened.” ―Lao Tzu

There is no I in TEAM!

Hello fellow followers! Let’s face it- there is no I in the word TEAM and to get to get things done these days, working in teams is almost imperative.

But how can you, as a leader, encourage a team to achieve your objectives? How can you avoid common errors that can kill performance and morale? Check out the article below authored by Calvin Sun who discusses 5 ways of keeping your team focused and on track.

 

1. Believe in your team’s objectives

Do you believe in what you want the team to accomplish? Do you think your goals are realistic? If not, rethink your position, because your team will sense your uncertainty. You may say the right words, but your body language and overall demeanor will give you away. On the other hand, if you truly are dedicated and believe in your goals, your team will sense it and will react accordingly.

2. Model the behavior you want from the team

Don’t be a hypocrite — lead by example. You want your team to interact courteously and professionally with others, but do you do so yourself? If you ask them to put in extra hours, are you there along with them? Country artist Rodney Atkins sings about how one day, his four-year-old son said “a four-letter word,” but how later that night, all by himself he got on his knees and prayed. What did the son say when asked about how he learned to do both things? “I’ve been watchin’ you.”

3. Keep a positive attitude

  • Game 1 of the NBA Finals has just begun. Fifteen seconds into the game, one team connects on a field goal, making the score 2-0. The other coach slumps in his chair, puts his head in his hands, and yells, “@(*@&@, this series is OVER!!”
  • (On November 12, 1989): Person 1: “The Berlin Wall just came down!” Person 2: “Horrible! The guards are now out of a job!”

Don’t laugh. If you have these attitudes, how do you think your team will react? If you model a negative attitude, your team will pick it up. I know it sounds trite, but try to stay upbeat.

Doing so doesn’t mean being unrealistic. It does mean, however, that you try to look at the glass as being half full rather than half empty. Instead of saying, for example, “This project will never succeed because of issues 1, 2, and 3,” consider saying, “If we want this project to succeed, it’s critical that we resolve issues 1, 2, and 3.”

4. Be clear about your goals

It’s hard for your team to accomplish its goals if those goals are unclear or unknown to them. More important, it’s hard to get them even to agree with those goals if they don’t know what they are. Make sure your team knows what you are expecting of them. If you can quantify

10 reasons to Volunteer

Hello Fellow followers! It’s a pretty common to think of volunteering as just something nice that people can do. Sure, it may make you feel good about helping, but what impact does it really have on others?

If you’ve been considering volunteering I strongly recommend you check out the following reasons why volunteering is important.

10.) It’s good for you. Volunteering provides physical and mental rewards. It:

  • Reduces stress: Experts report that when you focus on someone other than yourself, it interrupts usual tension-producing patterns.
  • Makes you healthier: Moods and emotions, like optimism, joy, and control over one’s fate, strengthen the immune system.

9.) It saves resources. Volunteering provides valuable community services so  more money can be spent on local improvements.

  • The estimated value of a volunteer’s time is $15.39 per hour.

8.) Volunteers gain professional experience.

  • You can test out a career.

7.) It brings people together. As a volunteer you assist in:

  • Uniting people from diverse backgrounds to work toward a common goal
  • Building camaraderie and teamwork

6.) It promotes personal growth and self esteem.

  • Understanding community needs helps foster empathy and develops your own belief to succeed in particular situations.

5.) Volunteering strengthens your community. As a volunteer you help:

  • Support families (daycare and eldercare)
  • Improve schools (tutoring, literacy)
  • Support youth (mentoring and after-school programs)
  • Beautify the community (beach and park cleanups)

4.) You learn a lot. Volunteers learn things like these:

  • Self: Volunteers discover hidden talents that may change your view on your self worth.
  • Government: Through working with local non-profit agencies, volunteers learn about the functions and operation of our government.
  • Community: Volunteers gain knowledge of local resources available to solve community needs.

3.) You get a chance to give back.

  • People like to support community resources that they use themselves or that benefit people they care about.

2.) Volunteering encourages civic responsibility.

  • Community service and volunteerism are an investment in our community and the people who live in it.

1.) You make a difference.

Every person counts!

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” ~Plato

Hello fellow followers. I’m sure you can all relate to there being times of you not wanting to be kind to people who aren’t behaving friendly to you-especially when you’ve done nothing to warrant ill treatment or discourteous comments.

-So how can we try to be kinder to people, especially when we don’t feel like it? Check out “Tiny Buddha’s” quick tips on kindness By Fiona Robyn

 

1. Try to notice when you feel the need to be unkind to someone.

If it’s too late and you’ve already said something mean, then complete the following steps anyway and you might learn something for next time. It might also give you an opportunity to apologize to the person you’ve been unkind to—“I know I was angry about what you’ve done, but I shouldn’t have said what I said. I’m sorry.”

2. Ask yourself why you are feeling an urge to be unkind.

Is it because you’ve had a bad morning, or because you’re feeling hurt or insecure? Is it because the other person has said something that has made you angry or upset?

3. If you want to be unkind because you’ve been hurt or you’re feeling insecure, then acknowledge the part of you that feels hurt.

Try to deal with this without taking it out on somebody else. Be kind to yourself.

4. If you want to be unkind because the other person has said something horrible to you, then you can do two things:

Try to make sense of why you feel so hurt. Did what the person said to you have a grain of truth in it, or are you afraid that it might? Is this why it upset you or made you angry?

Remember that the other person is fighting their own hard battle. They might have had their own terrible morning/week/life. You’re just unlucky that they’re taking it out on you. If what they’ve said to you doesn’t feel personal any more, it will have much less power to affect you.

5. THINK POSITIVE:

Think positive. For every negative person or situation that you encounter, think two positive thoughts. Say something positive to people you meet even if they’re really annoying you. It helps even more to go through your day thinking of something funny. When you think positively, and picture positive things in your head, you can’t help but feel more positive, and then this will manifest physically in the form of a nice smile and nice behavior.

Email Etiquette

Good Day Fellow Followers! Check out the following tips on email etiquette –from Laura Stack president of The Productivity Pro.

Use these suggestions as a starting point to create e-mail etiquette rules that will help your team stay efficient and professional.

1.) Be informal, not sloppy.

Your colleagues may use commonly accepted abbreviations in e-mail, but when communicating with external customers, everyone should follow standard writing protocol. Your e-mail message reflects you and your company, so traditional spelling, grammar, and punctuation rules apply.

2.) Keep messages brief and to the point.

Just because your writing is grammatically correct does not mean that it has to be long. Nothing is more frustrating than wading through an e-mail message that is twice as long as necessary. Concentrate on one subject per message whenever possible.

3.) Use sentence case.

USING ALL CAPITAL LETTERS LOOKS AS IF YOU’RE SHOUTING. Using all lowercase letters looks lazy. For emphasis, use asterisks or bold formatting to emphasize important words. Do not, however, use a lot of colors or graphics embedded in your message, because not everyone uses an e-mail program that can display them.

4.) Remember that your tone can’t be heard in e-mail.

Have you ever attempted sarcasm in an e-mail, and the recipient took it the wrong way? E-mail communication can’t convey the nuances of verbal communication. In an attempt to infer tone of voice, some people use emoticons, but use them sparingly so that you don’t appear unprofessional. Also, don’t assume that using a smiley will diffuse a difficult message.

5.) Summarize long discussions.

Scrolling through pages of replies to understand a discussion is annoying. Instead of continuing to forward a message string, take a minute to summarize it for your reader. You could even highlight or quote the relevant passage, then include your response. Some words of caution:

  • If you are forwarding or reposting a message you’ve received, do not change the wording.
  • If you want to repost to a group a message that you received individually, ask the author for permission first.
  • Give proper attribution.

 

 

Cat got your tongue?-What to say when you don’t know what to say

Like learning any new language, the language of assertive yet respectful communication takes practice. Many of us feel like a deer in headlights when someone says something insulting, hurtful, or presumptuous, and we have no comeback prepared.

So here are some ideas for you that I found from counsellor Andrea Watcher:

  • What makes you ask that?
  • What makes you say that?
  • I’ll have to get back to you on that.
  • I need to take some time and think about it.
  • That’s not going to work for me.
  • I wish I had said that differently. Can I get a do-over?
  • What do you want to have happen right now?
  • What do you need in order for this to feel complete?
  • That hurts.
  • I don’t necessarily need you to agree or understand what I am saying but I would really appreciate it if you would try to accept it.
  • It seems like from your response that I may not have communicated clearly or that you may have misunderstood what I said (or did) I would like to try again if you are up for it.
  • I know I agreed to do that, but I changed my mind. I’m very sorry.
  • I understand that’s how you feel. And this is how I feel.
  • It’s okay if we disagree.
  • What do you need from me right now?
  • It’s okay for you to be mad, but it’s not okay for you to be mean.
  • I am wondering if you would be willing to lower your voice because it is upsetting me
  • and I really want to hear what you have to say.
  • If you can’t lower your voice, I am going to have to take a break from this conversation even though I really do want to hear what you have to say.
  • I feel a lot of strong emotions over what you just said, and I don’t want to react harshly, so I would like to take some time before I respond.
  • I am curious: What is your intention in saying that?
  • I will totally take a look at that.
  • This feels awkward but I need to tell you that __________________.
  • I am making up a story about what you are thinking. Can I check it out with you and see if it’s true?
  • I want to hear what you have to say but the way you are saying it is scaring me.
  • What you have to say is important to me but it’s getting lost in the way you are saying it.
  • I am so sorry that I hurt your feelings. That was truly not my intention.
  • I have a request to make. If you can do it, that’s great and if you can’t, that’s fine too. I am just going to ask.
  • I know you love me and I don’t think you are intending to be hurtful, so I need to tell you that when you say ____________to me, it is very hurtful and I would so appreciate it if you would try to stop.
  • I would really appreciate it if you would stop commenting on my ______________.
  • I would really appreciate it if you would stop _____________________.
  • I am not sure what to do at this point because I have asked you to stop ___________ and you continue to do it, so something needs to change here.
  • I need to ask for a change in the way we talk or are with each other and I am hoping you are willing to hear me out.
  • I am not sure how to respond to that. Give me a minute if you would.

Keeping the Good Ones

Keeping the good ones!

While researching employee engagement, I came across an article written by author Jeana Quigley from the business.com blog.

Please read the following as I know you’ll find value in this one!

A company is only as good as the people it keeps. And lately there has been talk about talent shortages in business. However there is talent already sitting dormant on your team. Here are some tips for ways you can identify and tap into that talent and keep it right where you need it to be- with your company. Focus on:

Shining Stars

As a manager, you should be able to identify those who are performing not only up to par but going beyond. These employees are willing to learn something new and are constantly improving. It’s important to make note of and track this in employee records for future reference. While these employees are finding ways to improve on their own, you can also give them a chance to move or grow. If you don’t, they might look to another team.

Retaining the Best

Retaining employees with insatiable learning appetites is a huge priority, probably even more important than hiring new talent. After all, it saves you more time and money to keep a hard-working employee on the books than to go searching for someone who hopefully works out. You may feel you don’t have a ton of money to nurse these employees into all-stars, but the following several ideas require little to no extra budget:

  1. Job shadowing which allows employees to follow an employee in a different department or higher position. Employees can learn first-hand how a leadership position or position in another wing may help them move or grow within the company.
  2. Coaching which pairs a senior employee up with a less-experienced employee in an audit-like situation. The “coach” may offer up advice or guide the “coachee” to improve abilities.
  3. Mentoring which is similar to coaching but allows the professional relationship to go just a bit further. It is an ongoing process that includes continual learning, constant dialogue, and may even include challenges over a longer time period.

Promoting From Within

Most important is letting a high-potential employee move up when your company has an open position. Be sure to let hiring managers know which current employees could succeed in open positions. Looking outside the company for a position that could be filled with a capable, inside employee is akin to letting a perfectly thrown football slip through your fingers. Not only will the employee feel unappreciated and undervalued, but they may be discouraged and feel their hard work has gone unnoticed.

Stretching It Out

If you don’t have new job openings, why not give high-performing employees a title upgrade or some stretch assignments? Make sure to set boundary criteria to help them succeed but allow them to make mistakes. As long as they learn from these mistakes and correct the process for future opportunities, you will have a strong employee who is gaining valuable experience resolving difficult situations.

Letting each employee know his contribution is valued makes for a satisfied, happy team. Ensure your employees know the team needs their best efforts. Just as a company doesn’t need 20 CEOS, a football team doesn’t need 20 quarterbacks. If you want to win games, you have to have a good offense, defense, and special teams. Every role in a company is valuable, and every player wants to do his very best.

Follow up Steps after the Interview

Hello fellow followers, my name are Valerie James and I’m the recruiter for the Eat’n Park Restaurants. This week I came across an informative article by Ford Myers, the President of Career Potential- named “Follow up Steps after the Interview/Strategies to help you get the Offer”. After reading it I reminisced on a few times of when I was clueless as to what were the next steps in the interview process after I had interviewed with a company, it also reminded me of how I’ve grown since my earlier interview days.

Here are a few suggestions from Ford Myers article-“Follow up Steps after the Interview/Strategies to help you get the Offer”.

By engaging these follow-up strategies after the interview, I foresee you will improve your chances of getting more offers, and you will also feel more empowered and effective throughout the hiring process!

 

1. Set the stage for effective follow-up. The first strategy is to have a structured follow-up system in the first place (which most candidates do NOT). You should have a plan in place before you even get to the interview! This way, you’ll be able to “put the wheels in motion” immediately, and you won’t have to think about it! This step alone will relieve the pressure and decrease your anxiety. Plus, you’ll feel prepared, pro-active and more in control. Developing your follow-up strategy BEFORE the interview will even enhance your behavior DURING the interview.

 

2. Act more like a consultant than an applicant. When you’re at the interview, don’t spend all your time trying to “sell” yourself. Focus instead on asking intelligent, probing questions about the employer’s business needs, problems and concerns (like a good consultant would). These questions should be based on the preparation and study you’ve done beforehand. Write-down the interviewer’s answers, which will become the foundation for your follow-up steps. Whenever possible, give specific examples (Accomplishment Stories) from your work history that are directly relevant to the interviewer’s stated challenges.

3. Follow-up promptly and compellingly. Now that your interview is over, be sure to send your thank-you letters as soon as possible. These should be personalized to each individual (not generic), and must include specific references to each person with whom you met (something they said or contributed). Be sure your correspondence is as professional and clear as it can be, whether via e-mail or “snail mail.” If you promised to send the employer additional documents or information, do so promptly.

 

5. Use every follow-up contact as a chance to build your value. After the interview, carefully review your notes, which highlight the company’s most pressing needs, problems and challenges. Identify specific areas where you have successfully addressed similar issues in your career. In your thank-you letter, include brief synopses of these accomplishments, tying them directly to the company’s stated challenges (usually in a side-by-side chart format). You can even support your “claims” by sending the employer actual samples of your work. Most companies want employees who are true problem-solvers, so this will prove that “you have what it takes” and that you can bring your special value to this organization.

 

6. Be punctual and persistent. It shouldn’t even be necessary to mention this “strategy,” but some candidates sabotage their chances for the offer by arriving late to the interview, or by “dropping the ball” in the middle of the process. So, always call when you say you’re going to call and do what you say you’re going to do! Be meticulous in your business etiquette, which includes consistent, regular follow-ups by phone and e-mail. Be persistent in expressing your sincere interest in the opportunity, but don’t be a pest.

 

7. Accept rejection gracefully. Assuming you’ve done everything you can reasonably do to win the offer, you must accept whatever decision the employer makes. If you get the message (directly or indirectly) that the company is not interested in you, or if they actually reject you, then all you can do is move on. You can’t “force” the interviewer to make you an offer, no matter how “perfect” you may have thought the job was for you.

 

8. Turn defeat into victory. After being rejected, the first thing you should do (ironically) is to send a thank-you letter. You can really distinguish yourself from the other rejected applicants if you send this sort of polite, professional letter “after the fact.” Express your sincere appreciation for having been considered for the position, and wish the new employee every success. State that you would be happy to be considered for the position again, should the selected candidate not work-out for any reason. (You would be surprised how many times the “new hire” does NOT work-out). When the employer needs to find a quick replacement, there will be a high likelihood that YOU will be at the top of their list. In some cases, the employer may even be so impressed with your grace and professionalism, that they will offer you a different position at the company as soon as a vacancy occurs! If you genuinely liked the company, stay in touch with them over the long-term. Other opportunities will open-up, so make it easy for the employer to contact and eventually hire you.

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