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It’s not them…it’s your Attitude

Greetings fellow followers! Check out this passage by Charles Swindoll.

I challenge you to implement at least one of the below tips into your daily routine.

“The longer I live, the more I realize

the impact of attitude on life.

Attitude to me is more important than facts.

It is more important than the past, than education,

than money, than circumstances, than failures,

than success, than what other people think or say or do.

It is more important than appearance, gift, or skill.

It will make or break a company…a church…a home.

The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday

regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.

We can not change our past…

The only thing we can do is play on the string we have,

And that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10%

What happens to me and 90% how I react to it.

And so it is with you…we are in charge

of our attitudes”.

 CHARLES SWINDOLL

pastor, author

So how do I change my attitude? Good question-Here is two ways you can actively adjust your attitude when you’re not feeling so content.

Monitor your thoughts and substitute new ones-it takes some practice, but once you master it, you’ll find this skill to be a godsend. Because our feelings are connected to our thoughts, if we can change our thoughts, we can change our feelings. But before you can do that you have to be aware of what you’re thinking. Practice by listening to the voice in your head, the inner one that is probably often critical and cranky. Notice what it’s saying when you’re feeling your bad mood. Then ask yourself- what thought would be a more positive one? Deliberately work to insert that one instead, and make yourself think it.

Question yourself and your attitude-One way to get to a point and changing your attitude is to play the game of questioning your attitudes, especially ones you hold on to. Ask where they have come from. Ask what they are serving. Ask what you’re getting by not letting them go… journaling can be really helpful for this. We hold onto things generally because they serve some purpose. Or we hold onto thoughts because we can’t see a way around them. Write them down, and evaluate if they are truly worth focusing on repeatedly.

Remember your attitude affects your altitude. See you at the top!

Learning to Dance in the Rain

Greetings Fellow Followers!

Reading Inspirational stories about the trials and tribulations of others is one thing- finding gratitude in your own struggles and sufferings is another. It’s easy to appreciate and applaud the courage of others who’ve defeated their pain to find beauty and meaning- but it can be much harder when it’s our turn to rise above.

So what can we learn from others’ experiences? How can we adapt their lessons to our own lives?

Mac Anderson and BJ Gallagher authors of the book “Learning to dance in the rain” give a few tips that may be considered “dance lessons” for the storms that will sooner or later blow into your life.

Dance Lessons

  • Begin by being thankful for what didn’t happen (i.e. you lost your job…but you didn’t lose your health. Your dog died… but your spouse didn’t. Your mother has Alzheimer’s disease but your father doesn’t)
  • Play the glad game or make a gratitude list. The glad game helps you focus on what’s right in your world today instead of what’s wrong. It’s a terrific way to change your attitude in a hurry. Make a list of the things you are grateful for and glad to have. For example: I’m glad I have you as a mom, I’m grateful I have healthy children,   I’m glad I have reliable transportation.
  • Practice forgiveness- let go of resentment. Someone wise once said, “Holding onto resentment is like swallowing poison, and hoping the other person will die” Resentment doesn’t hurt the person you’re angry at- it hurts you.
  • Look for the lesson in every experience-then move on.
  • Make gratitude a habit
  • Teach others how to be grateful- its contagious, you can catch it from others and they can catch it from you. Teach gratitude to others by living it not just scolding people for not being more grateful.

Remember if other people have learned to dance in the rain, so can YOU!

Eat’n Parks Summer Internship Rocks!

Hello Fellow followers! Check out this cool interview from one of Eat’n Parks summer interns- Courtney Hegeman. Courtney is a student attending Robert Morris University and is working towards completing her Bachelors in Hospitality and Tourism. But before you delve into her interview here is a little background on our management internship.

Our Management Internship program is designed to provide college students the opportunity to explore a career with Eat’n Park restaurants!

The internship spans ten weeks and is modeled after our management training program.  This allows each intern the opportunity to experience all departments, learn management functions, and assist in running shifts under the supervision of the general manager.

Courtney’s Interview

Please describe the most important things you learned during your internship

“The most important things I learned during my internship included learning the roles that every team member serves in the restaurant. Working in all of the different departments taught me how each department depends on each other. My duties included assisting in different department positions including greeting, serving, cooking, prep, baking, and assisting the managers with completing paperwork (shift cards, pull lists, prep lists, and payroll)”

Describe which personal and professional strengths you have developed during you Management Internship.

“Professionally, I have developed a management presence. At first, I was nervous about managing a group of people but this experience has given me confidence in myself to do so. I developed practical skills in the kitchen, and prep areas. Personally, I’ve developed more confidence as well as personal drive to succeed in this field because I love it so much!”

 

 

What areas would you have like to develop further during your Internship experience?

“Honestly, the only thing that I wish is that the internship was longer. I know how to do the basics, but would have liked to work on finding the balance between wearing the different “hats” of management. I have always struggled with wearing the “police hat” and correcting people who are set in their own ways which are commonly wrong. Throughout this experience, I genuinely pushed myself to speak up more when needed.”

What did you enjoy the most about the internship?

“All of the people that I got to work with! It honestly started to feel like a little family. No matter how frustrating things would get at times, we all would come together to get the job done. This caused all of us to bond together-which makes the ending of the internship a little sad”

What could we do to make your internship better?

“The only thing I would recommend is to have a day to work one-on-one with the general manager when he is not on duty. This would make it easier to train in certain areas without interruptions.”

Would you recommend Eat’n Parks internship program to peers at your College/University?

“I would definitely recommend Eat’n Parks internship to anyone! It was such an amazing experience and I met so many great people along the way. The company is so amazing from the top down and I loved seeing different angles of how the organization is run.”

Understanding Separate Realities

Hello fellow followers! While enjoying a day at the spa I had the opportunity to relax and read the excerpt “Understanding Separate Realities” from the book “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff” by Richard Carlson. Reading this chapter struck a cord- since last week’s blog I featured- learning how to connect with people. So, while on the subject of connecting with people, I find real value understanding that people will have separate realities but when connecting you still have the opportunity to build a valuable relationship if you’re willing to understand and learn what makes that individual tic.

Understanding Separate Realities

It’s not a matter of merely tolerating differences but truly understanding and honoring the fact that it literally can’t be any other way. -“Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff”

If you have traveled to foreign countries or seen depictions of them in movies, you are aware of vast differences among cultures. The principle of separate realities says that the differences among individuals is every bit as vast.

Richard Carlson states that understanding individuals have separate realities can virtually eliminate quarrels and helps you develop compassion. Why? Because when we expect to see things differently, we take it as a given that others will do things differently and react differently to the same stimuli, the compassion we have for ourselves and for others rises dramatically. The moment we expect otherwise, the potential for conflict exists.

Being interested, without judgment in the way other people choose to live and behave is a strategy geared toward developing your compassion, as well as a way of becoming more patient. When someone acts in a way that seems unusual to you, rather than reacting in your usual way, such as, “I can’t believe they would do that,” instead say something to yourself like I see, that must be the way she/he sees things in their world.

Connecting the dots…to connecting with people

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” - Dale Carnegie

Hello fellow followers! Connecting with people can sometimes be more challenging and uncomfortable than we think.

Take a look at the following tips on how to connect with people by Scott Dinsmore.  Scott Dinsmore is the founder of Live Your Legend, a coaching and digital product company helping people build a career around work they love.

 

  • Be genuine. The only connections that work will be the ones that you truly care about; the world will see through anything short of that.
  • Pay attention. It’s nearly impossible to genuinely offer help if you don’t pay attention — I mean real attention, not just to what sports and foods they like! Learn about their backgrounds and passions. Invest genuine time in learning what really matters to them and how you can help.
  • Make real friends. Think about how you’ve made the friends you have. That’s all this is. You only make friends with people you genuinely want in your life. Don’t over-think it. Be human, be helpful and most humans will happily be human in return, regardless of who they are.
  • Provide help. Even the biggest and most powerful people in the world have something they’d like help with. Too many people never reach out to those above them due to the fear that they wouldn’t be able to offer anything in return. But you have more to offer than you realize: write an article or blog post about them, share their project with your community, and offer to spread their message through a video interview with them. Give real thought to whom you could connect them with to benefit their goals.

Turn that frown upside down!

Hello fellow followers! We have all dealt with negative emotions in our professional and personal lives, but did you know smiling has many benefits?

Check out the below cool facts about smiling from the pickthebrain.com

  • Forcing yourself to smile can boost your mood: Psychologists have found that even if you’re in bad mood, you can instantly lift your spirits by forcing yourself to smile.
  • It boosts your immune system: Smiling really can improve your physical health, too. Your body is more relaxed when you smile, which contributes to good health and a stronger immune system.
  •   Smiles are contagious: It’s not just a saying: smiling really is contagious, scientists say. In a study conducted in Sweden, people had difficulty frowning when they looked at other subjects who were smiling, and their muscles twitched into smiles all on their own.
  •  Smiles Relieve Stress: Your body immediately releases endorphins when you smile, even when you force it. This sudden change in mood will help you feel better and release stress.
  • It’s easier to smile than to frown: Scientists have discovered that your body has to work harder and use more muscles to frown than it does to smile.
  •   It’s a universal sign of happiness: While hand shakes, hugs, and bows all have varying meanings across cultures, smiling is known around the world and in all cultures as a sign of happiness and acceptance.
  •   Smiling helps you get promoted: Smiles make a person seem more attractive, sociable and confident, and people who smile more are more likely to get a promotion.
  •   Smiles are more attractive than makeup: A research study conducted by Orbit Complete discovered that 69% of people find women more attractive when they smile than when they are wearing makeup.
  •  Smiles use from 5 to 53 facial muscles: Just smiling can require your body to use up to 53 muscles, but some smiles only use 5 muscle movements.

 

 

Know thyself…

Hello fellow followers!

Many people live in peaceful ignorance of themselves and their needs, others not wanting to know for fear of what they would have to address. After reading an article by Emotional Health Expert Elaine Sihera, I thought we’d all find value in understanding ourselves. Below you’ll find her POV on why knowing yourself is so important for the following three reasons:

First, you have to live with yourself 24/7

No one in your life will be with you as much as you are with yourself. Would you live with a stranger for so long without knowing anything about them? Really, it is about self-awareness. Who you are, what you like and want, where you are going, what makes you happy and what makes you irritated. Those are very vital things to know if you are to improve the quality of your life and benefit from the things which make you happiest.

Second, self-awareness builds confidence

The more you know about you, the greater you will feel emotionally and the more adept you will become at dealing with situations. You then become more intuitive about what works for you and what doesn’t. Self-awareness is a powerful tool for improving competence because you will be pushed along directions which make you feel good rather than living in a vague way from day to day, not knowing how you feel or what you should do.

Finally, self-awareness boosts identity

If you don’t know much about your background, history, culture, gender and what you value, how will you get on with others in mutual respect? They cannot respect what they don’t understand. People who lack self-awareness tend to be ambiguous and make others feel uncomfortable because they are never sure what to do. So ignorance about the self is not a good thing

What is the first step of getting to know me?

The first step to getting to know you would be-asks questions. Just as you would with anything topic or person that you’d like to know a little better, do the same for yourself. Here are a few starter questions that you can begin to ask that will provoke so thought.

  • When do I have the most energy? Day or Night.
  • What makes me happy?
  • What makes me unhappy?
  • Do I like to work with people?
  • Am I energetic?
  • What do I do really well?
  • What do I like about myself?
  • Am I pessimistic or optimistic?
  • What’s my best quality?
  • What’s my worst quality?
  • What do I not like about myself?
  • What is my motto?
  • What’s my biggest worry?

 

“He who knows others is wise; he who knows himself is enlightened.” ―Lao Tzu

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