After some research I’ve found that bullying not only is established in school or homes but also at work- Yes work! So how does this happen? Well according Times Business and Money magazine authors- to many if not most are allowed to keep abusing colleagues because their bosses aren’t aware of their behavior, either because it goes unreported (many victims are too frightened or embarrassed to draw attention to their plight) or because the bullies are good at masking their behavior and/or fooling their superiors.
Many bullies are very socially skilled, and use their bullying behavior strategically to coerce others into providing them the resources needed to achieve their work-related objectives.”
Facts about Bullying on the job
- 50% of Americans have not experienced or witnessed bullying, but 35% have been bullied; 15% have witnessed bullying.
- Bosses comprise 72% of bullies.
- More men (62%) are bullies and women are the most frequent targets of bullies (58%). Women bullies target other women (80%).
- Up to 81% of employers are perceived as doing nothing and resisting taking action when targets of bullying fill out a survey. In the general public, only 44.8% perceive the employers as doing nothing.
- 45% of people targeted by a bully experience stress-related health problems including debilitating anxiety, panic attacks, and clinical depression (39%).
-The workplace bullying Institute survey 2010
Types of bullying behaviors:
- Physical threatening others
- Intimidating others
- exhibiting condescending behavior that puts people on edge and makes them unable to function professionally
Ho do I stop the bullying?
- Describe the behavior you see the bully exhibiting – don’t edit or offer opinions, just describe what you see. ie (You regularly enter my cubicle, lean over my shoulder, and read my personal correspondence on my computer screen.)
- Tell the bully exactly how his/her behavior is impacting your work. (Because much of my work is confidential, these actions make me feel as if I need to hide what I am working on from you, or change a screen which is a waste of my time.)
Remember you want to be tactical on how a confront bully but you also want them to know that you will stand your ground if they continue to challenge you after you’ve addressed the disruptive behavior.