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The Professional Advantage

We’ve all heard how important it is to behave “professionally” in the work place and if you want to get ahead, be taken seriously, and have your boss think of you as an asset to the team –doing things in a professional way is vital, but depending on where you work and the type of job you have, this can take on many different forms. There are, however, quite a few common traits when it comes to being professional. And according to the monster career coach-This includes the following:

1. Competence. You’re good at what you do – and you have the skills and knowledge that enable you to do your job well.

2. Reliability. People can depend on you to show up on time, submit your work when it’s supposed to be ready, etc.

3. Honesty. You tell the truth and are upfront about where things stand.

4. Integrity. You are known for your consistent principles.

5. Respect for Others. Treating all people as if they mattered is part of your approach.

6. Self-Upgrading. Rather than letting your skills or knowledge become outdated, you seek out ways of staying current.

7. Being Positive. No one likes a constant pessimist. Having an upbeat attitude and trying to be a problem-solver makes a big difference.

8. Supporting Others. You share the spotlight with colleagues, take time to show others how to do things properly, and lend an ear when necessary.

9. Staying Work-Focused. Not letting your private life needlessly have an impact on your job, and not spending time at work attending to personal matters.

10. Listening Carefully. People want to be heard, so you give people a chance to explain their ideas properly.

Acting like a professional really means doing what it takes to make others think of you as reliable, respectful, and competent, and the more you put into practice the 10 points listed above, the better your chances will be to create a positive reputation for yourself which translates into raises, promotions, chances to work on projects you have an interest in, and the less likelihood of being downsized when layoffs are being considered.

Dress to Impress

Hello fellow followers! Did you know that your appearance and how you dress impacts the impression you give others about you? According to a study by Frank Bernieri, Ph.D., an associate professor of psychology at Oregon State University, within the first 10 seconds of meeting your interviewer–otherwise known as the meet-and-greet–that person has decided whether or not you’re right for the job.

What does this mean?

This means, those who come across as polished and pulled together are simply more likely to be hired than those who are seen as putting in less effort.

According to Bernieri, dressing the wrong way is equivalent to the worst social faux pas: “like picking your nose during an interview.”

How to Dress for an Interview:

You should familiarize yourself with the employer’s dress policy, and be observant of the company’s culture. In both an interview and in the workplace, it is always best to err on the side of caution.  When in doubt, select more professional, conservative clothing.

Here are some tips for how men and women should dress for an interview.

Men’s Interview Attire

  • Suit (solid color – navy or dark grey)
  • Long sleeve shirt (white or coordinated with the suit)
  • Belt
  • Tie
  • Dark socks, conservative leather shoes
  • Little or no jewelry
  • Neat, professional hairstyle
  • Limit the aftershave
  • Neatly trimmed nails
  • Portfolio or briefcase

Women’s Interview Attire

  • Suit (navy, black or dark grey)
  • The suit skirt should be long enough so you can sit down comfortably
  • Coordinated blouse
  • Conservative shoes
  • Limited jewelry (no dangling earrings or arms full of bracelets)
  • No jewelry is better than cheap jewelry
  • Professional hairstyle
  • Neutral pantyhose
  • Light make-up and perfume
  • Neatly manicured clean nails

So Remember, dressing professionally demonstrates respect, and also shows the employer that you take the interview seriously.

 

 

Winning the Battle of Negative Expectations

Check out this article I read on overcoming pessimism…

Joe a middle-aged mental health professional is what I like to call a closet pessimist. On the outside, Joe looks and sounds like an optimist. He’s quick to offer advice to his clients, as well as friends and family, like:” Hey, it’ll work out- you’ll see “or “Better times are right around the corner.” But when it comes to his own future, Joe is much more pessimistic. He says, “Every time the phone rings, my first thought is ‘Oh Lord, what’s wrong now?’ I hate that but can’t help it—it’s just automatic.”

Joe thinks like a pessimist. Like millions of others, he was raised in an alcoholic, abusive home. As a kid, Joe earned to hope for the best but to expect the worst because in his family life was always one beer away from chaos- It’s how children of alcoholics survive. The problem is, the pessimism of his past has persisted, and now it just complicates his present mental and emotional life.

If you see yourself in Joe’s story, the good news is that you can win the battle of negative expectations. (Happiness for Dummies pg. 69)

Here are five simple rules to help you do just that:

  • Accept the fact that you’re a pessimist at heart. You don’t have to go around sharing the information with just anyone, but you should be honest with yourself about the challenge you face in becoming a more positive-thinking person.
  • Accept the fact that your first thought is always a negative one- that’s just a given- But DO NOT go with this thought, don’t dwell on it, and certainly don’t let it guide your behavior at that momnet.
  • Remember that it’s the second thought that counts. Learn to counter act your initial pessism by substituting an optimistic thought. So, for example, “I’m not sure if I can do this” becomes “wow, what a great opportunity!”
  • Separate the past from the present (and the future). Start saying, “That was then; this is now.” No longer link chaos of your early years (or whatever negative experiences you had in the past) with the expectations you have for things that come up in today’s world.

ü  Reward yourself for this self-initiated change in thinking. Give yourself a pat on the back, or head to your local coffee shop for yur favorite drink.

Remember Anything that was learned can ultimately be unlearned J

“Pessimists are usually right and optimists are usually wrong but all the great changes have been accomplished by optimists.” Thomas L. Friedman

It’s your choice…

Hello Fellow followers!

Did you know researchers at the Harvard School of Public Health, completed a survey of over 1,300 healthy men, and found that pessimists had twice the risk of developing heart disease over a ten-year period compared to optimists? You can bet this made the optimistic men and their families- happy.  That’s huge! But sadly many of us continually postpone our happiness, and its not that we consciously set out to do so, but that we keep convincing ourselves, “Someday I’ll be happy”. We tell ourselves we’ll be happy when our bills are paid; when we complete school, get our first job or promotion. We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, or when our spouse gets his or her act together. Meanwhile, life keeps moving forward.

The Truth!

The truth is there’s no better time to be happier than right now. If not now, when? Your life will always be filled with challenges. It’s best to acknowledge this and decide to be happy anyway. Here are a few of my favorite quotes about deciding to be happy

Be happy with what you have and are, be generous with both, and you won’t have to hunt for happiness. -William E Gladstone

 

-The most important thing is to enjoy your life- to be happy- it’s all that matters. – Audrey Hepburn

 

-Happiness, true happiness, is an inner quality. It is a state of mind. If your mind is at peace, you are happy. If your mind is at peace, but you have nothing else, you can be happy. If you have everything the world can give – pleasure, possessions, power – but lack peace of mind, you can never be happy. – Dada Vaswan

 

-Be happy with being you. Love your flaws. Own your quirks. And know that you are just as perfect as anyone else, exactly as you are. –Ariana Grande

 

Remember IT’S YOUR CHOICE!