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Archive for September, 2015

Feedback Helps You Grow

Hello Fellow followers!

Did you know that as a leader giving feedback is a responsibility you perform again and again? Letting people know where they are and where to go next in terms of expectations and goals – yours, their own, and the organizations.

Here are some tips on how to effectively give constructive feedback

  • Begin with the positive and with sincere praise and appreciation.
  • Avoid saying “You do this well, but…” because the follow up criticism wipes out the praise.
  • Point out the person’s importance to you and the organization.
  • Mention your own development areas and what you are doing about them.

Discussing the Results

  • Listening skills are the key to a successful feedback meeting
  • Let him or her do a great deal of the talking.
  • Ask many questions about his/her point of view
  • Put yourself in his/her shoes and really understand what he/she is saying
  • Focus not only on what the person says, but what he/she feels.
  • Let him/her draw their conclusions before giving your opinion

Giving your Point of view

  • Focus on behaviors and styles, not the person.
  • Avoid saying “you’re wrong” point blank; this just makes people defensive.
  • Show confidence that the person can improve… he or she can!

Setting Goals

  • Let the person set goals and strategies for development when possible.
  • Make sure your expectations are clearly stated in terms of behaviors or results. Avoid vague goals like “be more energetic”
  • Set up timetables for improvement.

So remember, your objective in giving feedback is to provide guidance by giving information in a useful manner, either to support effective behavior, or to guide someone back on track toward successful performance.

 

Do you think about what you think about…?

Hello Fellow followers!

Did you know researchers at the Harvard School of Public Health, completed a survey of over 1,300 healthy men, and found that pessimists had twice the risk of developing heart disease over a ten-year period compared to optimists? You can bet this made the optimistic men and their families- happy.  That’s huge! But sadly many of us continually postpone our happiness, and its not that we consciously set out to do so, but that we keep convincing ourselves, “Someday I’ll be happy”. We tell ourselves we’ll be happy when our bills are paid; when we complete school, get our first job or promotion. We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, or when our spouse gets his or her act together. Meanwhile, life keeps moving forward.

The Truth!

The truth is there’s no better time to be happier than right now. If not now, when? Your life will always be filled with challenges. It’s best to acknowledge this and decide to be happy anyway.

Here are a few of my favorite quotes about deciding to be happy …

Be happy with what you have and are, be generous with both, and you won’t have to hunt for happiness.” -William E Gladstone

 

“The most important thing is to enjoy your life- to be happy- it’s all that matters.” – Audrey Hepburn

 

“Happiness, true happiness, is an inner quality. It is a state of mind. If your mind is at peace, you are happy. If your mind is at peace, but you have nothing else, you can be happy. If you have everything the world can give – pleasure, possessions, power – but lack peace of mind, you can never be happy”. – Dada Vaswan

 

-Be happy with being you. Love your flaws. Own your quirks. And know that you are just as perfect as anyone else, exactly as you are. –Ariana Grande

 

Remember IT’S YOUR CHOICE!